Intimacy for the Asexual
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04 Feb 20 8:39 am
Okay, most people are aware of what makes for intimacy in a relationship that has physical contact and sex. But what about people who identify as asexual?

I’m looking for real constructive dialogue πŸ€
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17 Mar 20 9:28 am
I find it interesting that nobody is willing to post to this thread
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01 May 20 3:07 am
It depends on the person, since asexuality has its own spectrum with different varieties of what kind of intimacy they are willing to do (or lack there of).

Someone that is an aromantic asexual will have zero interest in intimacy and romantic relationships in general. Others that are not aromantic can be okay with only holding hands and cuddling, or there are some that are okay with occasional sexual contact from their partner.

If you are considering a relationship with an asexual, communication is an absolute must. Especially in terms of what sexual conduct is acceptable and how to approach it.
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01 May 20 8:48 am
: Thank you for the feed back. I really am uncomfortable with physical contact bu enjoy just spending time with people. So things do get stressful. Some people re really weird and can't understand that I don't like hugs and body contact. I had one person threaten to hug me 20 times a day while at a weekend event. She just couldn't understand how rude she was being.

Such is life I guess πŸ€
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15 Jul 20 7:33 pm
For an Asexual I guess any intamacy would be more platonic but built on a close friendship. One where deep, inner most thoughts and feelings are shared, many activities spent together and shared positive experiences like that. If any physical affection isn't your thing, fun activities together are the way to go.
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06 Aug 20 12:19 pm
: Thanks. I agree πŸ€
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16 Dec 20 9:05 pm
It's funny but a few years ago I was at a birthday party and the birthday girl was questioning why I don't have a GF or wife. I had a really difficult time explaining to her I haven't had the best experience with these things and I've finally reached that age where you don't care so much about these things anymore. Eventually our discussion led me to an online test I did where the result categorised me as Aromantic. The only way I can explain myself is the idea of sex, dating, relationships or anything like that is very distant, weird and alien-like for me. I don't care about this stuff but I do feel that it's sad my life turned out that way. Sorry if I've mentioned this before.
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17 Dec 20 11:44 am
Karl wrote:
It's funny but a few years ago I was at a birthday party and the birthday girl was questioning why I don't have a GF or wife. I had a really difficult time explaining to her I haven't had the best experience with these things and I've finally reached that age where you don't care so much about these things anymore. Eventually our discussion led me to an online test I did where the result categorised me as Aromantic. The only way I can explain myself is the idea of sex, dating, relationships or anything like that is very distant, weird and alien-like for me. I don't care about this stuff but I do feel that it's sad my life turned out that way. Sorry if I've mentioned this before.



I don’t remember you mentioning it prior. I agree that society is difficult and having to explain why we each do what we do is, for me, an invasion of my personal choices and privacy.

Could you post a link to the online test? Thank you πŸ€