It seems that no matter who you're with or where you are, there is always someone trying to give you ways on how to change. It's hard to say no because these people know you and opinions sometimes matter. You want to stay true to yourself but you also want to have your peers' approval. Most would say that this is weak and the person has no backbone. But the actuality is that it's a natural human instinct to want to be accepted. However, there is such thing as just following the crowd and just faking it to please everyone else and that's not good either. I believe the key is be yourself but wear appropriate attire that everyone wears so you don't stick out but you're not a follower either; you're not caught in between yourself and your friends.Granted, I can't exactly follow this because most of my friends are almost exactly like me but the information could still prove true. Let me know is there are anything that I'm missing.

It seems like I'm being tortured! One of my girly friends is going out with my best guy friend. They are nothing alike and she's always being a bitch to him for no reason. I like him a lot but he's not one of those guys that gets mad and breaks it off with you just because you're sometimes a douche; he gives everyone a a chance to change, no matter how long it takes. They fight all the time and I see him get hurt so much. He's already attempted suicide several times and I think it's because of his "girlfriend." I want to help him but if I break them up, his depression might get worse because of me. His girlfriend know this so she continues to hurt him with no reprocussions. I know he can do better, I'm caught between losing him by doing what's best for him or losing him because he can't take the pain his girlfriend gives. What should I do?