The most offensive form of human mentality I can think of at the moment


'Projection is the process of displacing one’s feelings onto a different person, animal, or object. The term is most commonly used to describe defensive projection—attributing one’s own unacceptable urges to another. For example, if someone continuously bullies and ridicules a peer about his insecurities, the bully might be projecting his own struggle with self-esteem onto the other person'.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/projection

Everyone is doing it all of the time. Getting offended by it won't stop it. It's an unconscious process. As soon as we realize we're projecting one thing onto one person, another projection takes its place. I suppose the best we can do is accept what's unacceptable about ourselves. That only works for oneself though. It won't stop somebody else from doing it.

One of my worst issues. I don’t know how to turn it off

Immaculate wrote:

One of my worst issues. I don’t know how to turn it off

Try not to think of it as an issue. It's a normal, autonomic process. Our brains must be wired for it.

That's not to say it can't be problematic. It could very well lead to misunderstandings, wrong assumptions about another person, and the drama that may ensue from those things. All bigotry and most ideological polarity is rooted in projection.

What you can do is recognize when you're projecting a certain aspect of yourself onto a certain person, and stop it. By extension, stopping that projection can help you more quickly recognize it again if you project it onto a different person.

There will always be something else about ourselves that will get projected though. For most of us, it never stops. Only one percent of all of the people who have ever lived have been able to stop it completely. The probability that any given person is one of those people is incredibly low.

Yeah, I often project my own poor tendencies and intentions at times on others and think they are like that all the time. Recently, I have been better at spotting this, but the projection, anger, resentment, etc is still very well real. I just seem to lack faith in people being good intentioned. Even the slightest sign of disrespect causes thorough burning on the inside and I can get livid.

I always seemed to lack the ability to accurately assess the inner world and subjective of who I talk/interact with. I used to think I was an empath too, but I am starting to learn I am quite the opposite. I wish I had a therapist, or something, but I am way too strapped for that. Let’s just say, I am getting there, for better empathy and less projection.

It's a lifelong process. You're not abnormal. It's natural to assume others think and feel the same way we do, and have the same motivations as we.

Whenever you catch yourself thinking ill of somebody, stop and ask yourself whether you're guilty of the same thing you're accusing them of.

I don't know what your attitude towards Christianity is. I'm not religious myself, but I'm fascinated by ancient cultures and beliefs. There's a lot of sound advice in those old scrolls.

So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. - John 8:7

Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? - Luke 6:42

I guess so. I was also thinking, knowing me, to perhaps make amendments to my worldview. Perhaps I think people are more evil than they are, and hence I assume the worst of them. I have been hurt many times, so have others. So I guess moving forward, not only acknowledging my own hypocrisy, but also relearning the virtues of humanity.

I think many Millennials and Zoomers have had their heads filled with a lot of nonsense about "patriarchy" and "rape culture" and every other manner of evil-doer lurking around every corner. It's a wonder the endless fear-mongering hasn't made them all positively neurotic. Why attribute to malice what can be more readily explained as inattentiveness or outright stupidity? Most people are just trying to get through their own lives. They're not really worrying about how their actions affect others, must less actively plotting against others.

That is true. I even get paranoid around grown men automatically at this point lol. Or, categorizing people in my head. I struggle with seeing others full humanity, but I am getting better. One instance that helped was almost ghosting, in real life, a friend and her revealing she wanted to just say hi to me and wasn’t being passive aggressive after all

Men are awesome. I mean yeah, they're horny goats who look at women in a lustful way, but that's because they're men, not monsters. When I was younger, girls felt validated when men found them attractive. A lot of girls wanted an older boyfriend. That's frowned upon nowadays. The Boomers were all about "sexual revolution" for themselves, but now they're overly protective of younger women. Do what you want. Just don't get pregnant or cause a guy to go to jail over you for merely doing what a man will do. All of this used to be common sense. Girls just had a natural instinct for using their sexuality to their advantage. The Internet has ruined socialization in a lot of ways.

I think men, at least subconsciously, are more sexually tempted than women definitely. I can’t deny I have a bias in thinking of men more sexually provacative in terms of mentality towards the opposite sex. Yeah, will not lie, I often have a secret admiration for older men. Perhaps their maturity and development compared to the more infantile men of my age. They are also more likely to be muscular. It is something I pushed down often however. As it sounded too “typical” and I was internally misogynistic too, I suppose. Probably still have issues with that.

Men traditionally have a reputation for having stronger libidos than women, who are expected to have more self-control and at least give the appearance of being virtuous. That has its good side as well as its bad side. A man will do whatever a woman will let him do with her, just as any other male animal will. The evolutionary drive to spread one's genes is strong. Therefore, it's down to us women to exercise good judgement. On the other hand, acting in a way contrary to our own need for fulfillment to meet societal expectations is internalized misogyny.

In any case, I think sex drive has more to do with the individual than their gender. Some women have sex on the brain all the time, while some men hardly show an interest in sex. You have to learn about yourself at your own pace, and don't let anybody pressure you in either direction. Own your sexuality and use it to your benefit. While doing some things may have consequences, having fantasies about them rarely does. For example, I write erotica fiction about many things I've never done, and even some things that I'd never do.

Yeah, I was speaking generally. I consider myself quite sexual minded as well, and even a bit perverse. Like, in this gothic fantasy I am creating, it didn’t take me long to start sexualizing some of the characters already. I love the King protagonist in particular. I drew him so well. Anyway, enough with that, I am getting better and even good at not suppressing thoughts. Which would be quite good for me.

Is it a comic book or a set of drawings? I like the one you just posted.

My stories are on my website. The latest one is "The Daughters of Eve." The other six episodes are listed at the top of that page.

Okay, I will check it out. That one was more so me trying to practice drawing in the art style, so I drew myself quickly. The actual characters look different and are technically aliens.

I think all of us project whether we realize it or not. However, there is toxic projection and then there is just general projection.

I find it most noticeable when I would engage in new romantic relationships. I would often find her amazing, near perfect. The problem I had was not knowing a person completely, which is really impossible to do since it's a big enough challenge trying to learn your own self 100%. The thing is though, the mind fills in assumptions about a person and therefore we project.

I use the romantic partner situation because that's where I noticed it.

Scithe wrote:

I think all of us project whether we realize it or not. However, there is toxic projection and then there is just general projection. I find it most noticeable when I would engage in new romantic relationships. I would often find her amazing, near perfect. The problem I had was not knowing a person completely, which is really impossible to do since it's a big enough challenge trying to learn your own self 100%. The thing is though, the mind fills in assumptions about a person and therefore we project. I use the romantic partner situation because that's where I noticed it.

Bullying and bigotry would def be a very good example where it's toxic. It's fine that people dont like each other, but bullying is not good.